Documenting the style-scape of Lagos, Nigeria




For all the one thousand times I've been asked what's most important to me, I've answered "my peace of mind" as many times. Without fail. Always my peace.

However in the past few weeks, I've really struggled with crystallizing this concept to my reality. There have been uninvited changes in circumstance that have left me feeling a cocktail of emotions. Anger, bitterness, insecurity, a bit of hate, disdain, self-pity, and a good dose of distrust. 

With humankind's seemingly insatiable taste for conflict, no matter how peaceful you are as an individual, you cannot avoid dem nasties. 

Sometimes regardless of who they are to you, you've got to downright eliminate these toxic people and relationships from your life. Anyone who threatens your mental or worse, your physical well being HAS GOT TO GO! 
It's not malice. It's self preservation. 
Peace is beyond important. I can't over stress it. When we cry, the spiritually conscious ones among us offer up fervent prayers, meditate and say affirmations. Yet, in all honesty, we still cry. 

Prayers are great actually! "Pray without ceasing" is the instruction from my Holy Book even. But while we pray, can we also do?

So...focus shift. 

How about being uncharacteristically kind to the next person you meet right after reading this? That's my plan anyway...for the next...well..till whenever. 
I genuinely think being EXTRA kind has the potential power to lift you out of a cloud of inner chaos. It's just a thought. But a valid one methinks.  

And hey, even if you don't necessarily step into deep content afterwards, you can smile having known you've satisfied the need for a near-extinct aspect of humanity. Fact is, your immediate environment and the world at large can do with a sh*tload of kindness right about now. 

Would love to hear your thoughts. 



  1. I can't tell you how much I needed this. I've been kind all my life but people seem to take advantage. It's not easy but this was a good reminder to continue. No pain, no gain

  2. Bookmarking this post. It spoke to me

  3. I agree.

    Sometimes necessary to separate the wheat from the chaff.

    Live, learn, grow.

  4. Kindness has to be two ways. Why should I go out of my way to be nice to people and get nothing in return?

  5. Thank you! I have a destination in life and I won't let the "nasties" stop me

  6. This is soooo true! So on point! I couldn't agree more. Flesh & blood did not reveal this to you, honestly.
    We all need to learn not everything/everyone good is good for us.
    God bless you.